Written by Jillian Turecki.
Everyone comes into dating from their own unique place. This is why dating is fun, and why it can be challenging. To be kind to yourself and others, ask yourself these essential questions from the start.
What are my intentions?
Before diving into dating, ask yourself: Why am I seeking a relationship? Are you looking for companionship, fun, or something serious? Being honest about your intentions helps you choose the right people and avoid unnecessary heartache.
Am I emotionally ready?
Past wounds can shape how we show up in relationships. You don’t have to be fully healed. But you do need the emotional prep to open yourself up to someone. Have you healed from past heartbreaks? A healthy relationship starts with self-awareness and emotional stability.
What do I need in a partner?
Clarify your non-negotiables and values by asking yourself: “what matters most to me? What must I have in a relationship, no matter what?” Knowing this prevents settling for less and helps you recognize true compatibility.
Am I content on my own?
A fulfilling relationship enhances your life—it doesn’t complete it. If you’re not happy alone, dating won’t fix that. Cultivating a life that feels meaningful (not perfect) to you ensures you bring confidence, not neediness, to the table.
Knowing yourself is important. Being true to yourself, even more so. Why not use the self-reflection you’ve just done to be even clearer on what you’re looking for on your profile?